Kay Cooke

Member Article

Designing ecological, ethical and sustainable change- in you!

Perhaps you’ve noticed how many people seek change in themselves - appearance, levels of confidence, badges of success, behaviours, and so the list goes on.
Some people want to change those around them too, which can often generate resistance and cause relationship problems at work, home or at play.

Undoubtedly we have more choices available to us than ever before, particularly when it comes to changing external factors. Think about any Spa’s de-stress or detox day, or the quiet distraction of a golf course, both wonderfully rewarding, if temporary, experiences. But what about mind maintenance – de-toxing and de-stressing fears, hot buttons and drivers for thoughts and behaviours that no longer serve you.

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) enables you to design ecological, ethical and sustainable change.

One of the great things about the easily learned NLP methodology is being able to train your mind into thinking smarter and more efficiently because NLP is fundamentally the study of excellence.

As a dynamic process, NLP has become firmly integrated in business and commerce, IT, education, medicine, sport, therapy and many other industries. Put simply, it provides models that formulate strategies for improvement.

I’ve chosen a personal story to illustrate one simple way that this skill-set supports useful communication.

As first ‘mum’ into the emergency room following a car crash involving my son and his two mates, I quickly assessed my son was going to be OK and that unfortunately, one of the other boys was apparently not doing so well.

And then, for the first time in several hours, the lad (a family friend) was left alone as staff dispersed having stabilised him. I went to his cubicle where this terrified semi-conscious lad was trying desperately to make sense of the things he thought he had heard said about his injuries.

In the past I may have become emotional involved in his drama but instead, I quickly utilised the NLP skill set that I know can bring about instant change.

Neuro- because I communicated a strong, calm confident state - re-assuring his unconscious mind.

Linguistic- because the more I stacked presuppositions of his recovery, the more he listened to my temporal shifting of his fears. ??

Programming- because I could see how he was stressing himself (strategy) and swiftly interrupt those patterns.

Within a few minutes, simple monitor readings (that I recognised from previous work in health assessments) had improved - blood pressure, heart rate, oxygen level, and of course his emotional ‘state’ was much calmer.

The impact of words on our neurology is profound.

I overheard a medic in the next cubicle asking ‘how is your pain coming along?’ Just think about that for a moment - the presupposition that the pain belongs to you and is growing… It is not rocket science - if you say “this” pain or “that” pain, which feels more real and up close?

Just imagine having greater personal state management, a toolkit of influential language patterns, and a greater understanding of how (not what) people think.

We’re running a free NLP taster session on Saturday 10thDecember in South Gosforth – why not join us and explore how NLP can benefit you.

Check out our website for details (booking required) or contact
Kay@the-me-group.com
t. 05602 728815
m. 07876 228157
w. www.the-me-group.com

This was posted in Bdaily's Members' News section by Kay Cooke .

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